Wednesday, September 30, 2015

Podcast: "Big Magic" Do What Ignites Your Soul (Elizabeth Gilbert)

This morning's neighborhood walk found me feeling guilty and stressed because I have large proofreading projects to finish before leaving town for the much-needed family vacation in the cabin in the woods ... to include trips into the city to go to Omaha's Zoo and Lincoln Children's Museum.

So I found Elizabeth Gilbert's Big Magic podcast series on my phone and walked to the grocery store for snacks for co-op today. I also needed Sudafed ... the kind that makes meth that I have to give my driver's license for ... but the pharmacy was closed. I wonder at what point they start to question if I am buying too much but I do have a family of 7 so ...

Episode 1 was "Do What Ignites Your Soul" ... and Gilbert called someone who had posed a question to her. The question was how do you do what you want and write what you want to write when you have kids and also when your extended family is not supportive of what you are writing?

Wow, did that hit home.

So I homeschool 5 kids ranging from almost-6 to 14. It's a big job and I love it. I'm also married so there's that other main person in my life who takes a lot of my thought. If not for him, the house would be a pig sty and meals would be frozen waffles every night. He helps me to be better and to get out of ADD Creative Land, where I kind of want to live all the time. An example is that I want to just PLAY at homeschooling all the time and go places but he makes me realize there is also learning work to be done at home.

So there's that challenge of writing with people around, which we all have! Also I am a proofreader for money and I write articles for money. We need the money so I put off the writing for pleasure and income. This, to me, counts right now as writing.

Then there is the aspect of writing something like I want to write, the memoir of my 4 1/2 years with an abusive man and all the stuff that went with that. Stuff that I fear could get me shunned in my Catholic groups. I don't give a shit about myself being shunned but I don't want my kids to be shunned because of things I did over 20 years ago and because I chose to write about them and make them public. I'm sure my family also doesn't want anything to do with reading it or know it's out there. I would hate to read something written by one of my kids about a horrible situation they had been in!

But ... (1) I feel the need to get the story out and (2) a side benefit would be helping other women in my situation. (** after I published this post I realized I could always wait until my kids are grown to get it out there)

Okay, so then Gilbert CHANGED MY LIFE when she said there is a difference between the book you will write and the book you can publish.

Yes. This is what I needed to know. Thank you for that.

Permission to write my truth and then do what I want with it.

Next episode is with Cheryl Strayed of Wild fame and she's a mom who took off for 3 weeks to write and left little kids behind. Getting judgy like I was at first? Read tomorrow to see how this one went!

Tuesday, September 29, 2015

YouTube: Maria Forleo and Elizabeth Gilbert Talk Creativity and So Much More

This morning I went for a 30-minute walk around the neighborhood. The weather is in the 70s this week in Kansas City and it's so easy to just put on my Oofos sandals, shorts, grab a water bottle and my phone/headphones and GO.

Today I was armed with something to listen to. My list is really stacking up so I'll be sharing with you as I get the chance to listen. My friend Christine Shuck of The Deadly Nightshade (also a writer) told me yesterday about this YouTube video since we are both in love with Elizabeth Gilbert. It's over 45 minutes, so I knew it would take me two walks to finish ... or maybe later today I'll sneak in listening to the rest of it somehow!

What I've heard so far is so inspiring! She has such a way with words, that Gilbert! I have her book Big Magic on the way to me before I go on vacation with my family (thanks to my husband for the rockin' pre-anniversary gift) and am super excited, being a creative person and all that. But I think we are ALL creative! This book is going to be so amazing for so many people!

Anyway, no, I don't WATCH the video as I'm walking or I'd likely trip and die ... I just put it on and listen and absorb the awesomeness. So far I've learned about fear (it's good!), authenticity, writing to help others versus yourself, shit sandwiches and the fact that just because you put your all into something (ahem, like a direct sales business) doesn't mean you are going to get to the top or succeed. Get real!

Here you go! Let me know what you think!